Think, Think, Thinking About Life

There are days where I struggle to think of what to write and then there are days where my mind is going too fast for my fingers to type cohesive sentences.  Maybe not to a point where it becomes jibberish, but who knows, it may very well be incomprehensible.  (My apologies to my high school writing teachers and my mother) Usually when this happens at home I can just start talking and tell my my mom and sister everything.  They have learned to just roll their eyes.  Come on people, didn’t you ever read As I Lay Dying?  All about the stream of consciousness.  Ok, now that I’ve discussed something educational on the blog (an AP course novel counts, right?) let’s get on with my Thursday thoughts.

I’m absolutely loving the Internet and it’s vast accumulation of lists.  Between “25 Things I Wish I Knew Before 25” to “20 Things Nobody Tells You Moving Out of Southern California” – it’s all true.

Has anyone had their first life-crisis?  Maybe not the sort of life-crisis that makes you do something drastic (buy a couple purses, get an ear-piercing…oops already did that) but it’s debating your life purpose, your college, your major, or your job?  Well, I think it has something to do with this little thing we call technology.  Thank you social media for enabling us to blow this whole “grass is greener” thing out of proportion.  Thank you to Facebook for increasing the FOMO (fear of missing out) syndrome.  Thank you to Pinterest for making us inspired to work out and be the ultimate crafty person but set our expectations to the impossible level.  SnackTherapy had the ultimate post about this last week.

Let’s just say that growing up is TOUGH.  To find your life’s purpose or even establish your own identity is difficult work.  Not to mention peer-pressure, the fact that you want to fit in and don’t know how to find people who enjoy the same activities you do.  Let’s just add an element of reality to it – living in a new city, earning money to only spend it on rent and maybe some good food once in awhile. I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs but who doesn’t?

I actually am grateful for the Internet because I’ve been able to blog, meet some pretty darn genuine people and call them my friends.  I’ve been able to read articles such as those listed above to realize we are all in this mess together and we are each in charge of our own happiness.  I’ve realized that there is no “normal” whether it’s in college, out of college, etc.  I’ve also started to implement some of the first article into my life and feel it’s too good not to share.

  • Twenty seconds of courage is all you need – You don’t need to do something stupid but be bold.  Break free of your comfort zone.
  • Ask for help – I’m all about independence, so this has been difficult.  I fear that if I ask for help, people will think I’m incompetent.  So not true.
  • Take care of my body – I genuinely like to work out (I feel confident and strong and that’s attractive) and I love kale, quinoa, salmon, and sometimes kombucha (dead serious here).  However, I also love frozen yogurt and if I had my choice I’d have it every day.  The catch?  Well 16 Handles isn’t exactly budget friendly.
    • Learn to eat better, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, cut out/down on some of your more unhealthy choices and de-stress yourself as much as possible. In the long run, you won’t regret it and you’ll probably feel a lot better too! (thanks to this thought here)
  • Learn self defense – oops, need to work on this…maybe start with pepper spray?
  • Forgiveness and acceptance are freeing and necessary to maintain peace of mind.
  • Stop being addicted to technology –  I know, I post a lot about this, but it saddens me how many people are walking the streets with their noses buried in their phones, couples at dinner, both straining their necks to read some update or article or play some trivial game.  What happened to the art of conversation? 


Now onto my first love – California.  It’s funny when you decide to move across the country to an entirely different culture.  Yes, the Mexican food here sucks and I am quite the traffic snob.  Besides, why does no one else put “the” in front of the highway names?  It’s normal, duh.  Also let me clarify that not everyone lives near the beach.  While I’d like to say that, it’s simply not true.  People who don’t know the geography of the west coast tend to make assumptions, which is fine since I can’t explain the different cities in New York or even explain the difference between North Jersey and South Jersey.  


Really, how do people come up with these and put them to “paper”?  I know someone has a good article or blog post when I find myself smiling or nodding vigorously with each new sentence.

Don’t get me wrong, I love living in New York – all the sights and sounds, the hustle and bustle, the non-stop energy – but California will always be my home.  True, I grew up in the suburbs and that’s all I’ve ever known, but living in a city has expanded my horizons far beyond what I could have predicted.



14 thoughts on “Think, Think, Thinking About Life

  1. i remember say thing to you last weekend, about everyone in other parts of the country being like oh you live in california? so you live on the beach!! the cliches that go along with different states and different areas is kind of funny. and to what you said about growing up being tough, ummm yes. i was actually listening to some avril while i was running at the gym yesterday. the song here’s to never growing up makes me smile everytime. i hope that i as i grow up i can hold on to my child like personality traits as long as possible.

  2. I am a fan of lists as well, especially ones like the type you mentioned. There’s something comforting in knowing you aren’t alone in whatever you’re going through as you struggle to grow up and find your place in the world. I do think it’s amazing that you moved across country though. As tempted as i can be to move away and live somewhere new to experience a new way of life, I don’t know that I would be brave enough to move that far from my family. I’m a pansy at heart I think 😛 I’d do it if i had to but otherwise? Definitely not sure so kudos to you hun!

    • Well thank you! I agree it can be tough to make those changes, hence why I just seem to make the jump without thinking sometimes. I’ve been quite fortunate to have such a supportive family so it really doesn’t feel like I’m that far away 🙂

  3. I just love all of your posts. I always read them nodding my head the whole time, but you already knew that. I’m pretty sure you’re the one that got me hooked on thought catalog and now I #cantstopwontstop

    as for California… the stereotypes still exist in my head, but I’m sure people have their own about new englanders so we’ll call it even 😉

    • If only we could transport ourselves out there! My mom does say it’s a little too warm for winter and the lack of rain is a problem for the drought. Stay warm!

  4. I am really bad at my California geography. I’m going to San Jose next week for work and I have no idea where it is — I hope it’s at the warm end! 😉

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